Struggling To Embrace Your Natural Beauty When Everything Around You Is Fake

Gone are the days when women were forced to embrace their imperfections. If your nose is too wide, you can have a slimmer one reconstructed. If you’re not happy with your bottom, go ahead and inject yourself a new one. For every physical trait you don’t like about yourself, there’s a quick fix solution. And now more than ever, everyone from celebrities to working-class people are opting for the quick fix. It makes it harder for those who are struggling to embrace their imperfections without surgery, but it’s important to understand and remind yourself that there is beauty in those same imperfections.

Nowadays, we see so many carefully crafted, doctored and made apple-bottom shapes that it makes the backsides that are real seem like anything but. The goal for many these days is to look like a Kardashian, forgetting that most of their most admirable traits have been purchased. Shade….but no shade.

While I think Kim, Khloe and many of the video vixens are beautiful women, I am old and wise enough to know that they weren’t born with many of these ballyhooed characteristics. However, some younger girls are not as wise and attempt to attain a look that can’t happen without surgical augmentation. In turn, they’re not satisfied with their natural attributes. And unfortunately, many older women feel the same, and they’re the same ones you hear about in the news who went to have products for their home injected in their body just to keep up.

I have even had my moments when I’ve contemplated surgery, but thankfully, my bank account, along with my fear of of knives and needles cutting my body, wouldn’t allow me to do it. I’ve loaned for a bigger butt that even my surplus of squats will never achieve. I was actually born with a nice size bottom, but it will never compare to the ones we see in the media, the ones that are anything but real, but have unfortunately become the norm for many in our society.

So how do you truly embrace your beauty when you don’t look like the girls in the magazines? Honestly, it comes with time. It’s hard to tell a young girl they’re beautiful when they are just getting to know themselves and feel that they don’t meet society’s standard of beauty. As older, growing women, we have to find beauty in the things that make us different.

Now this isn’t to say that if you decide to ‘go under the knife’, you’re automatically displaying self-hate; it is to say that before you choose a drastic body change, think hard about why you are doing it. First and foremost, you have to be happy with your appearance. And trust me, self-confidence is a trait that money can’t buy and a full head of weave and an injected butt can’t cover up. It all starts from within.